The Post-Adoption Blues
        ISBN: 1-5795-4866-0
        Copyright © 2004 Karen J. Foli
        Rodale Books Paperback

"A superb and deeply felt book. Karen Foli is at once knowledgeable, compassionate, and incisive. This book, through its honesty and wisdom, will help all who read it."

- Edward M. Hallowell, M.D., Harvard Medical School faculty member and author of "Driven to Distraction" and other parenting and psychology books

"This is the book the adoption world has been waiting for! Drs. Foli and Thompson combine personal and professional expertise to thow off the shroud of romanticism that has silenced the hearts of adoptive parents for decades. Birthing an adopted child into the family is just as taxing, and probably more so, than giving physical birth- yet others believe that there is no special aftercare needed for the parents. As an adoptive grandmother, I wish our adult children who adopted would have had this well-researched resource."

- Sherrie Eldridge, Author of "Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew" and "Twenty Life Transforming Choices Adoptees Need to Make"

The Post-Adoption Blues: Overcoming the Unforeseen Challenges of Adoption

Karen Foli and John Thompson

The Post-Adoption Blues: Overcoming the Unforeseen Challenges of Adoption

THE POST-ADOPTION BLUES: Overcoming the Unforeseen Challenges of Adoption is a groundbreaking book, the first of its kind to offer an explanation of the dynamics of parental stress and depression once a child is home and the strategies to help adoptive parents cope with these emotions. Written by a truly unique team: Karen J. Foli, a registered nurse, and her husband, John R. Thompson, a psychiatrist, have two children by birth and are themselves adoptive parents who struggled with post-adoption depression after their daughter came home. "We want this book to bring those unspoken emotions into the open and to mark the start of a new era of conversations about post-adoption feelings," say the authors, who are staunch supporters of adoption.

At the heart of the THE POST-ADOPTION BLUES are the expectations parents hold of the post-adoption experience and how the differences between those expectations and reality, create stress and depression. This book also gives these emotions a name: post-adoption stress and depression and compares them to postpartum blues and depression. Addressed in the book are questions concerning this sensitive time, including: Where can parents turn when the anticipated parent-to-child bonding occurs slowly? How can they handle feelings of grief over the birth child they couldn't have? What can they do when the child they so eagerly awaited arrives with unexpected needs?

In addition to expert advice and personal stories and solutions, THE POST-ADOPTION BLUES also provides a plethora of resources to turn to for further information, from a glossary of terms to an extensive list of books on the subject, support groups around the country, and websites to visit. A vital work, it offers parents the understanding and help they need to know a love that can lead them and their child to become more than they ever thought they could be.

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